My cousin’s husband was recently lost to cancer. They had been married for 17 years and had a 12-year-old son. He was diagnosed with cancer and passed away within just four months. At the time, my cousin was only 37 years old. When I called her, she was crying and feeling like her life was over.
I tried to comfort her by saying that things couldn’t get worse than this, so they could only get better from here on out. But I wasn’t sure if my words helped her or not.
When someone loses a loved one to an illness, they often wish they could hear that their loved one is okay, or that the loss didn’t really happen. But unfortunately, those things can’t be said.
It’s important to be honest and sincere when comfort is offered. Phrases like “I’m here for you” or “We’ll get through this together” should only be said if they are truly meant. Most people don’t spend a lot of time thinking about others who are suffering, because everyone has their own busy lives.
People who are grieving just want someone to listen to them. So it’s good to let them talk and express their feelings. Checking in on them once or twice a day, even if they don’t feel like talking, can mean a lot to them. Just a small message ” How are you ? Thinking of you !” will work.
And it’s important to remind them that the love they shared with their loved one is still there, even though that person is gone.
Even though it’s hard, people believe that strength can be found during tough times like these. At first, it might seem impossible to go on, but many find the motivation and courage to keep moving forward, often with the belief in a higher power giving them strength.
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